Man Is ‘Refusing’ to Go on Annual Family Trip with Loved One’s Newborn Now That It’s ‘Much More Expensive’
In an anonymous post on Reddit, the man writes that bringing an infant will add uneccessary stress to a group ski trip
A man posting on Reddit says he is “refusing” to go on a ski trip with his girlfriend’s sister and her newborn child, writing that the addition of an infant will add to both the stress and the expense of the trip.
In the anonymous post, the man writes that he and his girlfriend have taken a vacation with her older sister and boyfriend every year for the past four or five years.
“We either go on a ski trip, hit a national park we haven’t seen, or just go hiking/camping in the Rockies,” he writes. “We are able to make this trip really affordable only spending money on things that matter to us and we have a very similar taste in what we enjoy to do. I cherish this yearly trip and the memories we’ve made.”
About a week ago, however, he learned that his girlfriend’s sister is pregnant — but still wants to participate in the yearly trip, flights, skiing and all.
The girlfriend’s sister has now narrowed it down to “Colorado in September or in January to ski. and proceed to show me MUCH more expensive accommodations/rental car/flights ect to travel with a baby.”
He continues, “The baby is due in July so I quickly started crunching numbers in my head that would make the little feller 2-5 months old. I suggested we look into going somewhere much closer maybe a state park or somewhere in the Smokeys. We have a small camper, [we could all] just take a 3 day weekend trip to test the waters of vacationing with a baby.”
He adds: “I was immediately given the ‘I’m going to be strong mom speech and having a baby isn’t going to stop me from doing things.’ “
Later, the man and his girlfriend discussed the idea further, with the man saying he does “not want to fly halfway across the country with a newborn, pay way more for the trip, be able to do way less/enjoy it less, use my vacation time, just be super stressed and how her sister/bf couldn’t afford this trip without us covering half,” he writes.
The man adds that he believes that the parents-to-be are exhibiting “selfishness/irresponsibility” by forcing a newborn to fly and endure hikes and cold temperatures.
While the man’s girlfriend agrees, she also still wants to take the group trip.
“This trip is just ALOT both financially and mental stress. I’ve been getting the cold shoulder a couple days now starting to wonder is this a family obligation trip or to feed her sisters ego?” the man writes.
Commenters say the mom-to-be seems “delusional” suggesting a ski trip so far in advance of the birth, with one writing that it’s “maybe indicative of her still being in denial as to what pregnancy, birth, and motherhood is going to entail. Both their lives will inevitably change dramatically in ways they can’t know until it arrives – this seems like blatant denial to this huge impending adjustment and sacrifices required when you start a family.”
Adds another: “I’m a little over 6 weeks postpartum with my first baby and she is definitely an ‘easy’ baby. But there’s no way in the world I’d be flying across the country for a ski trip with her in the next few months… I think she’s being a bit unrealistic.”
